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I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.

I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".

Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"

Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc..

But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?

Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.

Bueno, voy a tratar de que mi mente voladora no se adelante preocupándose por lo horrible que es conseguir pareja y tal siendo mujer #trans (más en LatAm) y más si no me gustan los hombres.

Un paso a la vez en mi transición pero al menos tengo mucha madurez y amor para dar.

#lgbt#queer#dating
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@heiseonline

Dringende Bitte an alle: Nutzt keine #DatingApps, schon gar nicht welche von #MatchGroup (denen gehören Tinder, OkCupid, Archer und ca. 97 weitere).

de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match_Gr

Die wollen doch nur das eine!
Eure #Daten!

Teilt Eure Daten mit den Menschen, denen Ihr vertraut, mit Euren Liebsten, aber nicht mit #DonaldTrump!

de.wikipedia.orgMatch Group – Wikipedia

It's so weird, every match I got on dating apps over the past few years can only talk about themselves, and rarely seem interested in me! It's endemic! I don't remember it being like this at all when I was young (~25-20 years ago)!

I wonder..
- maybe people become more self centered as they age?
- maybe it's a cultural thing because we became more individualist?
- maybe the self centered people stay single because nobody likes them? 🤣
- maybe it's always been like this but I just never noticed when I was younger?

I'd like to hear other people who did online dating ~20 years ago if they have insights on this; is it just me, or is this really a thing?

Gimme your #dating insight, men who date women: on an app, if you’d messaged a cool lady, how long could she leave it before replying? What’s an acceptable length of time (if she explains in her message she’s been busy)?

»[…] Der Entwickler der Anwendungen, […], veröffentlichte laut dem Bericht eigentlich #geheim zu haltende Informationen wie Schlüssel für #Program'mierschnittstellen (#API's), #Passwort'er oder #Verschlüsselung'skeys zusammen mit den #Quelltext'en der #Apps. […]«

Echt jetzt, dies geschieht heutzutage noch? .env Files oder gar direkt im #Code setzt mensch keine Passwörter & Co. öffentlich in seiner #Git Distro. Dies betrifft leider sehr viele Menschen.

😬 heise.de/news/Datenleck-1-5-Mi

heise online · Datenleck: 1,5 Millionen private Fotos von Dating-Apps für LGBTQ+ enthülltBy Stefan Krempl